Hey there empoWered One,
Happy Make It Happen Monday. I pray you had an amazing week on purpose and that you are continuing to work on your dreams and goals. As I write this, I am struggling with disappointment...
You might be asking why?
I am struggling because I missed our Make It Happen Monday Instagram and Facebook Live conversation tonight and I don't like to NOT show up when I have committed myself to my purpose and to those who are assigned to my purpose. But I am also struggling because I made a commitment to myself to not harbor guilty feelings when I have to take a break from everything in order to show up for myself. I made a decision that in order to truly be the best and most authentic version of myself, I must be transparent about where I am in my journey so that I can give others permission to do the same.
So here's my moment of transparency:
Today was a rough day for me and my body told me that I needed to take some time to rest and rejuvenate. While I have learned the importance of listening my body, I have to admit I don't always take heed. Especially if it means my body is competing with my commitments. So while, I decided to "work" from my executive suite (aka my bedroom) today, I was so busy honoring my commitments that there was not a lot of rest and rejuvenation happening. Before I knew it, the time was approaching for our Make It Happen date and I found myself exhausted and in extreme pain. After some frustration, reflection and embracing of the truth, I wanted to share some insight I gained in hopes of helping you if you need it.
What I took away from today's experience:
1. I am an everyday work in progress. That means I don't always get it right even if I had it all figured out yesterday. I cannot beat myself up for not making the right choices all the time. I have to accept it and do the work to do better.
2. I have to own my right to self-care and not feel guilty. I cannot show up for others if I have not shown up for myself first. Yes I knew this but the true "work" is to remind myself of this as often as I need to.
3. The world around me will still happen even if I am not there in the center of it. So if I know that to be true then I don't have to apologize for putting myself first when I need to.
I will continue my work to be transparent. Transparency is not perfect. In fact, it's the exact opposite. Transparency means that I am one step closer to growing into the woman I am destined to be. It means that I have the unique opportunity to help another woman own her right to be perfectly imperfect and not feel the need to apologize for it. Transparency means that in the midst of my pain, my frustration and sometimes tears my determination to embrace it as I move through it and continue to MAKE IT HAPPEN makes me amazing on purpose.
I pray you have an intentionally amazing week and I will see you next Monday.
'Making It Happen' is our continued work to be the best versions of ourselves. But what does it take to really make it happen? Understanding that a dream without a plan is just a wish is key to truly making our dreams become our reality. Writing that dream down and owning it affirms our right to live the life we want to live on purpose and without apology. I challenge you TODAY to take those dreams and goals out of your head, write them down and make a conscious decision to change the direction of your life. #MakeItHappenMonday#2017WillBeAmazingOnPurpose #2017NoLimits
Sometimes I get nervous when things are going really good and every task I'm faced with seems really easy to get through. I mean, I appreciate not having to struggle with every single thing in my life but what I have come to learn is that I have discovered my greatest strengths during my struggles. Now it may not have felt like it when I was in the middle of it but the feeling of accomplishment when I came out of it is unexplainable.
In the midst of my sickness a few years ago, there were days when I felt pain from the time I opened my eyes in the morning until I forced them shut at night. I would look strong and "normal" on the outside but on the inside I felt like I was in pieces. I was tired of pretending to be strong. But when I could no longer hide how weak I felt I had to find the strength to take my mask off and accept the help I needed in order to open myself up to regaining my health. I am so grateful for that struggle because it truly changed my life and increased my faith in God and in myself. It allowed me to take the limits off of what I thought I could accomplish and made everything I wanted to accomplish possible.
Week 3 Challenge
Your challenge this week is to simply reflect on your struggles and acknowledge everything you learned during them in order to be the person of strength you are today. If you are in the midst of a struggle right now, I challenge you to be thankful even if doesn't feel good. Your ability to overcome a challenge is much bigger than the feelings you have while you are in it. Be grateful for those weak moments and trust the process of becoming amazing on purpose.
Every "Thankful" Thursday, I will send you a new challenge that will task you to focus more on operating in gratitude. The goal is to share, share, share this gratitude with the people in your world, at home, at work, in your social settings, online via social media, etc. Once you have completed the challenge for the week, please feel free to post and share your challenge on any platform you choose (I would love to see you post via Facebook, Instagram or twitter and use the hashtags #ThankfulThursdays #IAmAmazingOnPurpose #TellTheWholeStory
This morning I woke up with a terrible "can't lift my head off the pillow" headache. As I laid there trying to figure out what to do because I needed to get up and get my day started, I realized that trying to "figure it out" was likely the reason my head was hurting in the first place. I realized that I went to sleep last night worrying about so many things. I worried about the state of our country, I worried about my daughter's newfound school distraction, I worried about the direction of my future as it relates to my purpose, I worried and I worried until I finally drifted off to sleep.
The weight of those worries met me as soon as I opened my eyes and I realized that instead of worrying, I needed to pray and then release. I also needed to take it a step further and replace those worries with thoughts of gratitude. Gratitude for the many blessings and lessons that have brought me to where I am today.
Today, I sit perfectly imperfect but constantly working on becoming the best version of myself. Becoming my best me does not come from worrying about how to get it all right. It comes from being thankful for what I get right and wrong. It comes from being grateful for the lessons learned in the process, even if they are painful. It comes from sharing that gratitude with others and being thankful for the continued love and support I get from the very people who know I am not perfect but love and accept me anyway.
Today I challenge you to dig deep and remind yourself of the many blessings that have brought your to where you are today. If you can't think of many, take some time to reflect on one. Challenge yourself to write that blessing down, say it out loud or share it with someone else. Be grateful for the experiences you had to endure to get to the blessing and continue on your journey to become amazing on purpose.
Want to join in on our Thankful Thursday Challenge?
Every "Thankful" Thursday, I will send you a new challenge that will task you to focus more on operating in gratitude. The goal is to share, share, share this gratitude with the people in your world, at home, at work, in your social settings, online via social media, etc. Once you have completed the challenge for the week, please feel free to post and share your challenge on any platform you choose (I would love to see you post via Facebook, Instagram or twitter and use the hashtags #ThankfulThursdays #IAmAmazingOnPurpose
Before August 20th, 2014, the ability to take tragedy or negative experiences and turn them into a positive tool to encourage and inspire others is not an ability I ever thought I would have. How I saw my life had already begun to change prior to that date. However, 40 minutes inside the narrow white space of the magnetic resonance imaging machine (MRI) wearing large headphones as I listened to a gospel station on Pandora is where true change begin to happen.
I remember thinking that regardless of the outcome, I would not only live my life different but I would live my life out loud and without apology. You see, prior to that I was living in a silent darkness and holding on to the secrets of my pain and misery. However, in less than an hour after my spaceship-like musical ride was over, the change was confirmed along with a macro-sized tumor at the base of my brain. I knew then that my purpose had been defined and that a great work was going to be required of me once the tumor was removed and my health was restored.
That great work consisted of me sharing my testimony and my drive to overcome to as many people that would listen. I did not know a even greater change was coming when my task was expanded and challenged me to go deeper into my experiences, my past and my former darkness to share parts of me that I purposely "forgot" about. This great change is what has birthed, Tell the Whole Story.
Since the release of the book, I have been overwhelmed by the response and feedback that my story mirrors the story of so many women and men. It pains me that so many have had similar experiences but it overjoys me that their story could be told through my words and the obeying of my purpose.
I am forever grateful for the continued changes in my life but I am even more grateful for finally embracing those changes and continuing my journey to become amazing on purpose.
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I've never felt more beautiful about a disease that at one point made me feel so ugly from the inside out. From not understanding why this happened to me to not being able to explain to others how I felt when I was really in the thick of it. From the unseen issues like depression, anxiety, hypertension, chronic pain and fatigue to the visible symptoms like hair loss, weight gain and acne. From almost completely losing myself and my will to live to finally understanding the purpose for my pain and my mission in life! I am grateful for my experience because it purposed me to encourage others to never ever give up but I am so much BIGGER than Cushing's Disease and so destined to be amazing on purpose. #biggerthanmydiagnosis #IAmAmazingOnPurpose #empoWered4success
When I was in the midst of my sickness and my body was changing, I spent a lot of time in “hiding. When I would take pictures or get forced into pictures, I would attempt to hide my body behind others or only take perfectly angles selfies so I could hide what I did not like. As I look back on those pictures, I am reminded not only of the physical pain but of the mental pain I endured every day because I could not accept and love myself enough to not be ashamed of my appearance. Thankfully, through God, prayers, internal and external work, my body and mind was healed and restored.
I have spent the last year trusting God for the continued opportunity to use my testimony to inspire others to pray, love and work through their obstacles. In doing that I have had the opportunity to stand in front of the camera multiple times and not be ashamed of what I saw. Lately, I have been feeling an internal shift in my body and my most recent photos are evidence that change is happening again. The old feelings of wanting to hide have immediately crept back in, making my daily work to love me no matter what a little hard. But as I am a daily work in-progress, I will not allow anything I am experiencing internally or externally define me or keep me from the promise God has for my life.
Today I “Throw Out” the need to “look” the part and to hide behind the perfect picture. I will embrace and own my truth as it evolves and changes because I know that it is all a part of my whole story and my journey to be amazing on purpose. #TellTheWholeStory #IAmAmazingOnPurpose
At times I am reminded of the process my body went through in the midst of dealing with a disease I didn’t know I had. I felt and eventually saw my body changing before my eyes. While I could not explain why it was happening, in my mind I knew something was wrong. At the time I chose to ignore and hide what I was internally feeling. I thought if I ignored it, then it wasn’t happening. If I didn’t give life to it by sharing with others, then it couldn’t exist. Ultimately when I could not ignore it because my body was beginning to show the physical signs, I knew I finally had to not only acknowledge that something was wrong, but I had to move into action to do something about it. That movement ultimately saved my life and allowed me to regain my health. But I often think about how my delay in action could have resulted in a completely different outcome.
Today, my daily work is to pay close attention to my internal signs as it relates to my complete health.
When I am not feeling well physically, I have to review my checklist:
Am I eating properly?
Am I getting enough rest?
Am I emotionally drained?
Am I surrounding myself with positive energy and people?
When I am not feeling well emotionally I make a very similar checklist:
Is my body getting enough physical exercise?
Am I spiritually connected?
Have I taken some time relax and rejuvenate my body and mind?
The biggest lesson I have learned and continue to learn is that eventually the body will show you what your mind is attempting to hide. It is our daily work to go down our complete health checklist, mentally, physically and spiritually in order to be the best version of ourselves. Today is a great day to get out your list and do the work to Take Care of You and be amazing on purpose.
When I think about my childhood and the many years it took me to love myself inside and out, I am so grateful for the favor of God to make it through my journey and for the many people He allowed on my path to inspire, encourage and empower me to keep going.
Today I had the opportunity to speak to a group of young ladies who for various reasons are in the juvenile justice system. My heart was saddened and burdened because many of them either haven't had too many people sow into them or they weren't able to gain and apply the wisdom of those who have sown.
Thankfully, I have learned to embrace my experiences and through much prayer, faith and work, I am purposed to share them to inspire others. Today was confirmation of that purpose and and reinforcement of my assignment on this earth and I couldn't be more grateful for the opportunity to do that today. Sharing your wisdom and experiences today could change someone's life forever. #empoWered2empower #BlessedandHighlyFavored #WisdomWednesday
My goal is to take the time to focus on another "ROSE" in need and seek ways to bless, support and encourage her through her current challenges.